By Mical Imbukwa
So I am seated in the departure lounge at the Jomo Kenyatta International Airport waiting for my flight. I had really been dreaming of going to Paris and the time has finally come. I am over the moon with joy and I just can’t help smiling to myself. The guy seated next to me gives me the “anything the matter?” look but I assume him. Paris is on my mind. No fantasies any more! I am going there. “See you in a few Paris!” Facebook status updated. The announcement that my flight is ready brings my mind back to JKIA for minutes ago I was already wondering the streets of Paris. Just as I am making my way to board my flight number Az672, I am startled by a loud scream. I am actually not in any airport whatsoever! I am just in my room in my bed tucked under my red duvet. Damn! It is just a dream as usual. Wait. The scream. I check the time on my phone and it is exactly 2.00 am. The screams increase in intervals. Apparently, my good neighbor is beating or rather disciplining the wife. So this is what came between my trip to Paris? I decide to go out to witness things for myself for I don’t like distilled news.
Outside, my neighbor’s wife is lying on the ground because according to the utterances amidst her sobs, her back is broken. She is only wearing a skirt and her upper body is exposed. I move close to her and a sweater is thrown at me by another neighbor to help her cover the baby’s food. I help her wear the sweater while she is seating upright and I notice there is no expression of pain in her face from her supposed broken back. But that is none of my business. The husband starts explaining the source of their grievance and through it I learn that I am part of it? “She even warned me against speaking to you because she does not trust our friendship,” he says. At this point one of the ninjas in my head insights me on immersing the Luhya poshomill ugali weight in my legs on that “injured” back of hers but the other holy ninja speaks just in time. “Mical, all these troubles are because you are single and beautiful. Just go back to bed” I go back to the house cursing them for aborting my Paris trip. But wait! Why would she think that I would want to over through her government?
In other news, my friend was some months back asked to move out of her house because apparently the landlady wanted to renovate it and increase rent. She had been living in this particular house for more than two years and had even established a cake business that was doing so well. The landlady hand developed an attitude towards her ever since she started the cake business and my friend thought it was maybe because the lady had a shop and she saw her as competition. On the day my pal was to move out, a friend to the landlady approached her and told her that, “the lady is jealous of the fact that nice aroma comes from your house every night. She always comments on how you are an expert at cooking.” It got me thinking that suppose my friend was married, the landlady wouldn’t have issues with her cooking. In fact, she would have approached her to get tips on how to become Miss Chef in the kitchen. Being single made the landlady view her as a threat instead of a strength despite the beautiful business ideas my friend has.
Being a sing lady is a tight spot. Some of the friends you’ve been through thick and thin together in the past, when it comes to their boyfriends or husbands start viewing you as a threat. Some even place you in the bracket of the “Mipango ya Kando” exposed daily in Kilimani Mums and Dads Nairobi Uncensored, when you clearly wouldn’t think of doing it because the friendship you share will forever be your first priority and even though single, you have your own principles. Guys will approach you in different colors and sizes, some with the genuine desire to know you better and others who just want to play. Some in groups or teams you are in will even bet on your looseness and approach you just to prove a point. Woe unto you if you fall into their traps.
As a single lady who is principled and looks to settle down at some point, you have to put some things in order. Just like you have specific attributes of a job you are looking for or a car you want to buy, you must identify the qualities of a man you would want to date or marry. After you have identified these qualities, pray to God to give you a man with the said qualities because if you just ask Him for a man, He will give you just any man. Be specific with your request and He will answer you. When you have the qualities of a man you are looking for, you will avoid getting into the traps of men who just want to play. And when THE ONE comes by, God will give you a sign. With God ahead of everything, you can never go wrong on your choices.